I didn't sign up for drama club!!

So, my friend Stacy wrote in one of her previous posts about the week of Hell!!! Well, I am living it as well. I cannot seem to get away from the drama induced mania caused by my husband's family. I just haven't grasped the concept of growing big enough balls to stand up to people yet. I could probably write a novel and 2 sequels with all the madness that abounds in this lovely little gift wrapped package of a family that I have so luckily endowed through marriage.

I guess I will begin with the fact that everything was just fine up until about a yr ago when my brother in law decided that he had had it with his wife and her cheating. He just couldn't seem to grasp that by allowing her to strip for extra cash during their marriage that it might lead to her being a little unfaithful. So, 6 yrs into the marriage he decides to kick her out. Now, he really hadn't spoken to his mom (my mother in law) in 6 yrs either because she and his wife didn't get along. Now that he is getting the witch out of the house, who's help does he need? Yep! His mom's. Dear old mom who he didn't want there when his own child was born, dear old mom who wasn't invited to the child's baptism, and dear old mom who gave him the land his house sits on.

Fast forward almost a year from last November and you will see me and my husband basically being the ones to suffer. I invited her into my delivery room for the birth of her 1st grandchild, I called with all doctor's updates on me and the baby, I called her with the first teeth he cut, the 1st steps taken, etc... I let her keep him overnight, took him over there. When she and her husband moved into the house they are in now, my husband and I drove to help them clean when her own son NEXT DOOR couldn't even come over and help much less offer her a bathroom or water.

She doesn't call us and check on us anymore cause (in her own words) "she is trying to spend time with the son who was away from her for 6 yrs and the grandchild she has barely seen since he was born". Well hello that would be your son's fault for not letting you have anything to do with him yet here lately she can't seem to stop taking up for him. She is trying to help mend the damage that was done with one son and really show she doesn't care about the other. I tried talking to her about it and all she says is that we were the ones to back away. Well, when you are treated like you aren't wanted somewhere and that you and your child (who was basically your life for 2 years) aren't as important now as they were, then you tend to quit going to that place.
I can think back on the times that she said my brother in law was a bad parent and now he can do no wrong.

It's almost as if the past 6 years have been forgotten in her eyes. So, this past weekend my hubbys' granny was put in the hospital. Basically, she is on her death bed. His mom has not even called us to give us updates, but she can call her ex-husband and see if he can pick up the other grandchild for her since she will be up there all week. WTF??!! You are too distraught to call your own son and tell him how his Granny is doing, but you can call and make arrangements for yourself. So, the brother in law calls last night. "Why hasn't kyle called to check on Granny?" I replied "he did twice today. however, no one has bothered to call us about anything -- we didn't even know the room she was in". Him- "oh well I have been up here every night and I am checking on mom and walking her dog for her, and taking care of the stuff at the house for her." He also lets me know that he doesn't think it would be a good idea for my husband to be there cause he doesn't do well in those situations. Well, of course he doesn't want me or Kyle there. Then he wouldn't be the center of attention. Then he wouldn't look like a saint for being the only one to care. I was livid. How dare he call and accuse us of not caring. It is not his place to call us about that. Oh and mighty funny that he has the key to her house to walk her dog when just 3 years ago she thought that he and his wife had something to do with breaking into the house and stealing stuff while she was fixing it up.

All I know is that for the past 5 years I have done nothing but be a good daughter in law and this is the thanks I get! I tried talking to her about 2 weeks ago and of course it is all mine and my husband's fault. All this on top of the stress of trying to find a job. When it rains it pours. My mom just told me to quit worrying about it and what goes around comes around. I guess we will see.

Anyway, sorry for such a long post but the people at work just keep telling me not to worry about it. I appreciate their advice but I don't know how to stand up to people like they do. I just worry too much what people think and really need to work on that. In a nutshell, I am too sensitive for my own good and don't have big enough balls (so to say) to do anything about it.